A long time ago, a man lived who gazed at the stars all night long. He believed that the stars revealed what the future would hold and he called himself an astrologer. One night, while he was out for a walk and gazing at the stars, he had a terrible premonition that the world would soon come to an end. Suddenly, he realized he had just fallen into a hole full of mud and water.
He frantically began to call for help. He was up to his ears in muddy water and the pit was so slippery he slid back down each time he tried to climb out. Finally a fellow villager came to his rescue.
“My friend“, said the villager, “what good is it to read the future in the stars if you cannot see what is at your feet?” [story by: Eileen K. Van Kavelaar]
Team captains, I know that stepping up to give advice could be difficult if you don’t want to be seen as a nag or “better than”. There’s an easier way for your teammate to see the point you want them to see without you actually saying it.
SEND THEM TO MY BLOG! (no I’m j/k). Here’s an idea, have your teammate tell you their story. What they want, where they want to go, and how they want to be in the future. Leadership is really about story telling…it’s about finding someone’s story and helping them make it true and/or better. But the person helped must realize that, “There are no short-cuts to anyplace worth going“.
So how do you get them to see that?
Ask them to look at their feet. You’ve heard, the eyes are the window to the soul, well, your feet are a reflection of your will. Ask them to share with you how they are spending their time. Especially now since it’s off-season. Ask them, ‘What’d you end up doing last week? Aren’t you happy you’re one step closer to what you want?’ Their answer will tell you what you need to know.
The next part is complex. Because if they’re not doing the right things, you have to help align their “feet” with their “eyes”. Align what they are doing with where they want to go. And the best way to do that is using the two keys I mentioned in Mile 1: Leadership.
So where’s the puzzle piece! I don’t see a puzzle piece! The puzzle piece(if you want to give advice without saying it) is ASK QUESTIONS….the right questions!
Pay attention to what is right in front of you. Whose story are you affecting? click link below to leave comment