This is a quick tip/reminder to you if you are leading or planning on seeking that role on your team.
If you find yourself in a place where you don’t do what you’ve said, you will be seen as a dishonest person. Would you like to follow or be around a dishonest person? This doesn’t mean that there won’t be times where you probably want to change your mind…you will…but at least give the people paying attention to you the sufficient reason for your change of mind and your lack of action.
But dishonesty isn’t the worst label/stigma for people who words and actions don’t match…unfaithful is.
Think of leadership like you do a relationship. If someone says something but doesn’t do it, first it comes off as being dishonest. The person experiencing the dishonesty will chalk it up as probably a mood thing…a slip. But if the lack of integrity continues over a period of time, the person experiencing this character flaw in the relationship will absolutely see the other person as unfaithful.
What does an unfaithful person look like?
It’s a person whose says words with no intention of doing them. Some call them a pathological liar but unfaithful is a better classification. This person is unfaithful to their words, and if they are unfaithful to their own words, do you think they can be faithful to you, a person they’ve known for less time? This person will always say things that will manipulate any situation for their short-term benefit…even if that benefit has no productive effect. This kind of person is really in a ‘win-lose’ relationship with themselves – making sure they personally always get what they consider a win.
Before you thoughtlessly enter into or desire a team leadership position in your sport, just ask yourself this question, “Am I willing to back up the words that I speak with action consistently? Am I willing to be vulnerable enough to admit shortcomings and persistent enough to act (not speak) the changes needed?
Team leadership isn’t something you step into just to stuff your resume. You should desire to become skilled at it…and that takes an open mind and a continually developing heart.
And for the record, that’s exactly how coaches pick their captains if they want one. Words and Action must match.
“We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out.” – Winston Churchill